Amardeep Parmar

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I write on a variety of topics whilst challenging common advice to be more mindful. People seem to like it as I had over 1 million views in 2020! Search for articles easily on my website or sign up for my weekly newsletter.

If you’re a writer who wants advice, go to Write Your Future. I am also a co-editor for Entrepreneur’s Handbook and a moderator for Medium Writing Academy.

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“The greatest victory is that which requires no battle.”

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Sun Tzu’s Art of War is a short book. You can read it quickly, tick it off and boast about it. Or you could read it slowly and painfully and learn something about yourself.

I initially read it while I was deep into my martial arts training, I was disappointed at the lack of secret fighting techniques. On my second read-through, I discovered the philosophies would help me in the ring. It wasn’t until several more read-throughs I started seeing there was something deeper in all of this.

While it was a guide for actual war in ancient times, many lessons can be applied to the war we are battling with ourselves. Like many of you reading, sometimes I’m my own worst enemy and get caught in difficult internal dialogues. I assume like me, you generally don’t pop out to the shops and have to fight an army of samurai on the way back. …


Whitney Wolfe Herd bounced back after terrible abuse

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Some people believe lightning doesn’t strike twice in business. I’d tell them Whitney Wolfe Herd’s story to prove them wrong.

She not only co-founded America’s most popular dating app (Tinder) but several years later she founded the second most downloaded (Bumble) too. It’s difficult to argue any one person has had a greater influence on modern millennial dating than she has.

Whitney is about to go one step further by becoming the youngest woman to take a company to the Nasdaq. While many men may look in envy at Bumble’s $8 billion valuations, there is a lot of work to be done for gender parity. Out of 442 companies that went public in 2020, only 4 had female founders or CEOs. …


And cracked Top 10 on Substack Literary charts.

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“I want to help writers to grow through a newsletter but there’s just so much noise out there. I don’t know how to stand out”

“Yeah there’s so many opinions out there, how do people decide who to listen to”

“I feel like people could learn just from listening to the conversations we have with each other.”

“Wait that’s actually an idea. No one else is showing that debate between trusted writers who don’t always agree”

“Yeah! And we can get a couple others involved too, it’s be awesome. Let’s do it.”

This conversation between myself and Mike Thompson in late December was the birth of the idea of Write Your Future. Over the last two years, he’s one of the best performing writers on Medium and I’ve grown rapidly too. …


Don’t imprison yourself.

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At 18 years old, Edith Eger lay in a pile of corpses with a broken back, typhoid and pneumonia. Thankfully, for humanity, she survived and has blessed the world with her psychological research. You need to know there is a happy ending to be able to read her story.

Earlier in her teens, she was madly in love and training with the Hungarian Olympic gymnastics team. The Nazis slowly took her freedoms away until one day she ended up in the hell known as Auschwitz. Her parents were sent to the gas chambers on the first day. …


And 13k followers as a complete beginner

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I’m sick of most advice about Medium.

I started 2020 as a complete beginner and read a ton of bad advice that I was too inexperienced to ignore. Despite what people say, top writer tags claps, and read ratios are noise and don’t mean anything so stop chasing them. While we are at it, stop beating yourself up about writing every day, I averaged 1.5 articles per week.

Out of the 78 articles I wrote in 2020, 67% have at least 1000 views, 17% over 10,000 views, and 6% over 100,000. When I strip out my first few months where I had no idea what I was doing, those ratios increase significantly. …


Not all of his decisions were perfect

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Prepare the world’s smallest violin.

When Steve Jobs died he was worth only $10.4bn and only $2.2bn was Apple stock. The man many consider the greatest entrepreneur of all time wouldn’t have even made it to the global top 50 rich list.

Remember in 2011, Apple was the darling of Silicon Valley and had become the most valuable company in the world. Microsoft seemed a million miles behind as they worked on the disaster of Windows 8. Yet Bill Gates sat on a mountain of $50bn and regularly was the richest man on Earth.

How could the contrast be so vast between the two giants? By numbers alone, you could conclude Gates was a far more successful entrepreneur than Jobs. The difference all comes down to rage-driven decisions in 1985 during the darkest time in Jobs’s career that cost him $31.6 …


For humans who want easy ways to live better.

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It feels like everyone is taking on some kind of crazy challenge at the moment. This isn’t one of those 30-day challenges where you need to wake up at an ungodly hour or put your body through torture. Let’s be kind to ourselves rather than forcing our bodies and minds through something we can’t keep up.

A micro-habit is a small act making use of minimal time and often latching onto tasks we do anyway. I’ve learned willpower is fickle from BJ Fogg’s Tiny Habits and James Clear’s Atomic Habits so everything on this list is intentionally easy. …


It goes deeper than one disgruntled billionaire

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Silicon Valley has been unquestionably the place to be for aspiring tech entrepreneurs for decades. The whole industry has seemed to revolve around the Bay Area of California. Yet 2020 has challenged many things we thought permanent and Silicon Valley’s dominance is one of them.

Peter Thiel was one of the first high-profile founders to leave in 2018 and even then people were predicting the end was near. Yet there was little significant movement despite the chatter until the pandemic struck. This year the brain drain of top entrepreneurs has accelerated:

  • Austin, Texas: Elon Musk (Tesla), Joe Lonsdale (Palantir), Drew Houston (Dropbox), Douglas Merritt…


Maybe they will inspire you too.

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I have read hundreds of books and listened to many more summaries. Do you know what I realized? Overwhelmingly, most of these books were forgettable.

You shouldn’t be impressed by how many books I’ve read because it’s irrelevant when most information comes through one eyeball and straight out of the other. Most of the non-fiction I’ve read have ideas I thought were great at the time but stay stuck at that moment rather than accompany me through life.

Muhammad Ali said “Don’t start counting until it hurts” and a similar idea works for books if you are reading to grow. Only count books if they led to real change in your behavior or the way you see the world. Reading for fun is awesome but don’t strain through books you won’t remember for the illusion of being productive. …

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Amardeep Parmar

Rethinking self-improvement with mindfulness╰☆╮My short newsletter: https://amardeep.substack.com ╰☆╮Writing advice: https://writeyourfuture.substack.com/

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